Reading List

CREATING COUPLES RELATIONSHIPS THAT WORK

• • Real Love In Marriage – Baer, Greg MD

• • Bring Yourself to Love: How Couples Can Turn Disconnection into Intimacy – Barbera, Mona

• • The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate – Chapman, Gary

• • Take Back Your Marriage – Doherty, William PhD

• • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – Gottman, John M. and Silver, Nan

• • Why Marriages Succeed or Fail – Gottman, John M.

• • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide For Couples – Hendrix, Harville

• • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – Kabit-Zinn, and Johnson, Susan

• • The Dance Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate – Lerner, Harriet

• • New Rules of Marriage – Real, Terrance

• • You Are the One You Have Been Waiting For: Bringing Courageous Love to Intimate Relationships – Schwartz, Richard C.

RESOURCES FOR CREATING PHENOMENAL FAMILY

• • Fighting For Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love – Blumberg, Susan L.

• • The Intentional Family – Doherty, William PhD

• • The Resilient Self: How Survivors in Troubled Families Rise Above Diversity – Wolin, Steven and Sophie Wolin.

CHILD DEVELOPMENT & PARENTING

• • The Five Love Languages of Teenagers – Chapman, Gary

• • Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility – Cline, Foster W. & Fay, Jim
  • Parenting Teens with Love and Logic – Cline, Foster W. & Fay, Jim
  • The Smart Step-Family – Deal, Ron
  • Boundaries – Cloud, Dr. Henry and Townsend, Dr. John
  • Boundaries with Kids – Cloud, Dr. Henry and Townsend, Dr. John
  • Boundaries with Teens – Cloud, Dr. Henry and Townsend, Dr. John
  • Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex – Baker, Amy J. L., and Fine, Paul R.

• • Family Virtues Guide – Popov, Linda Kavelin

• • The Virtues Guide – Popov, Linda Kavelin

DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITY/DELAY

• • The Out of Sync Child – Kranowitz, Carol Stock (One of the Best books on Sensory Dysfunction & Integration)

DIVORCE

• • The Good Divorce – Ahorns, Constance

• • Healthy Divorce – Everett, Craig and Everett, Sandra Volgy

• • Fighting For Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love – Markham, H.J., Stanley, Scott, and Blumberg, Susan L.

• • Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce – Newman, Gary

• • Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Ricci, Isolina

• • Divorce Busting: A Step By Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again – Weiner-Davis, Michelle

GRIEVING, DEATH & DYING

• • When Children Grieve – James, J.W., Friedman, R., and Mathews, Leslie L.

• • Death & Dying: The Final Stage of Growth – Kubler-Ross, Elizabeth

• • Who Dies?: An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying – Levine, Stephen

FORGIVENESS AND HEALING FROM AN AFFAIR

• • Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All – Jampolsky, Gerald G.

• • Love is Letting Go of Fear – Jampolsky, Gerald G.

• • Forgive for Good – Lauskin, Fred

• • Forgive for Love – Lauskin, Fred

• • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate – Lerner, Harriet

• • Intimacy After Infidelity: How to Rebuild and Affair Proof Your Marriage – Soloman, Steven D. and Teagno, Loie J.

• • How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To – Spring, Janice Abrams PhD

• • After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful – Spring, Janice Abrams PhD

GENDER ISSUES

• • When Men Batter Women: New Insights into Ending Abusive Relationships – Gottman, John and Jacobson, Neil

• • The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships – Lerner, Harriet

• • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships – Lerner, Harriet

• • That’s Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships – Tannen, Deborah

• • You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation – Tannen, Deborah

• • Getting Through to the Man You Love: The No-Nonsense, No-Nagging Guide for Women – Weiner-Davis, Michelle

GETTING IT TOGETHER: EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR CHANGE

• • Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes – Bridges, William

• • The Way of Transition: Embracing Life’s Most Difficult Moment – Bridges, William

• • Personhood: The Art of Being Fully Human – Buscaglia, Leo

• • Comfortable with Uncertainty – Chordron, Pema

• • Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living – Chodron, Pema

• • The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times – Chodron, Pema

• • When Things Fall Apart – Chodron, Pema

• • Excuse Me Your LIFE is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feeling – Grabhorn, Lynn

• • Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain and Illness – Kabat-Zinn, Joni

• • Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life – Katie, Byron

• • Love is Letting Go Of Fear – Jampolsky, Gerald

• • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Jeffers, Susan

• • Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow – Lesser, Elizabeth

• • Guide to Stress Reduction – Mason, John L.

• • Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood – Muller, Wayne

• • It’s Not Your Fault: How Healing Relationships Change Your Brain & Can Help You Overcome a Painful Past – Romano-McGraw, Patricia

• • The Four Agreements – Ruiz, Don Miguel

• • Love Kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness – Salzberg, Sharon

IFS: RESOURCES FOR INNER PARTS WORK

• • Bring Yourself to Love: How Couples Can Turn Disconnection into Intimacy – Barbera, Mona

• • Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life – Holmes, Tom

• • Introduction to Internal Family Systems – Schwartz, Richard C.

• • You Are the One You Have Been Waiting For: Bringing Courageous Love to Intimate Relationships – Schwartz, Richard C.

JUST FOR KIDS (3-6 years)

• • Fred Stays With Me – Coffeit, Nancy

• • Where Is Daddy? – Goff, Beth

• • Divorce Is…(Coloring Book) – Magid & Schreibman

• • Two Homes – Masre, Claire

• • Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore – Stinson, Kathy

• • My Family’s Changing – Thomas, Pat

JUST FOR CHILDREN AND YOUNG ADULTS (7 and older)

• • It’s Not the End of the World – Blume, Judy

• • Surviving Your Parents’ Divorce – Boeckman, Charles

• • Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families – Brown, Laureen and Brown, Marc

• • Where in the World is the Perfect Family? – Heat, Amy

• • When Children Grieve – James, J.W., Friedman, R., and Mathews, Leslie L.

• • How to Get it Together When Your Parents Are Coming Apart – Richard & Willis

• • Why Are We Getting a Divorce? – Krementz, Jill

• • When Mom and Dad Divorce – Nickman, Steven and DeGoat, Diane

• • Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids – Ricci, Isolina

MINDFULNESS: STRATEGIES FOR RELAXATION AND STRESS REDUCTION

• • Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames – Hanh, Thich Nhat

• • Miracle of Mindfulness – Nanh, Thich Nhat

• • Taming the Tiger Within: Meditations on Transforming Difficult Emotions – Hanh, Thich Nhat

• • Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain and Illness – Kabat-Zinn, Joni

• • Guide to Stress Reduction  – Mason, L. John

• • Yoga as Medicine: The Yogic Prescription for Health and Healing – McCall, Timothy and Yoga Journal

HEALTH AND WELLNESS

• • Rituals for Healing: Using Imagery for Health and Wellness – Achterberg, Dossey, and Kokmeier

• • Premenstrual Syndrome Self Help Book – Lark, Susan M.

• • Menopause Self Help Book – Lark, Susan M.

• • Yoga as Medicine: The Yogic Prescription for Health and Healing – McCall, Timothy and Yoga Journal

 MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES

• • The Panic Attack Book – Burns, David M.

• • An Unquiet Mind – Jamison, Kay Redfield (One of the best books on Manic Depressive Illness)

• • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Jeffers, Susan

• • Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keep Us from Optimal Living and Loving – Lerner, Harriet

• • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate – Lerner, Harriet

• • EMDR Essentials: A Guide for Therapists and Clients – Maiberger, Barb

• • Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Mason, Paul T. and Kreger, Randi

• • EMDR: The Breakthrough “Eye Movement” Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma – Shapiro, Francine and Forrest, Margot Silk

• • The Mindful Way Through Depression; Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness – Williams, Mark;  Teasdale, John; Segal, Zindel and Kabat-Zinn, Jon

 ADDICTIONS: HOPE AND RECOVERY

• • Codependency No More – Beattie, Melody

• • Beyond Codependency and Getting Better All the Time – Beattie, Melody

• • The Language of Letting Go: A Book of Meditations – Beattie, Melody

• • Codependents Guide to the 12 Steps – Beattie, Melody

• • Strong at the Broken Places: Overcoming the Trauma of Childhood Abuse – Sanford, Linda T.

• • It Will Never Happen to Me – Black, Claudia

• • It Will Never Happen to Me!: Growing Up With Addiction as Children, Adolescents and Adults – Black, Claudia (Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics)

• • A Gentle Path Through Recovery: A Guidebook For All People in Recovery – Carnes, Patrick (This is a great workbook for getting through the 12 steps)

• • Stage II Recovery – Larsen, Earnie

• • Daily Affirmations For Adult Children of Alcoholics – Lerner, Rochelle

• • Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Mason, Paul T. and Kreger, Randi

• • Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood – Muller, Wayne

• • Twelve Jewish Steps to Recovery: A Personal Guide to Turning from Alcoholism and Other Addictions – Olitzky, Kerry M. and Copans, Stuart A.

• • How to Be An Adult: A Handbook On Psychological and Spiritual Integration – Richo, David

• • Healing the Child Within – Whitfield, Charles L.

• • My Precious Child: Affirmations for the Child Within – Williams, Mary L.

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